When tragedies occur, they emphasize the moment. That’s all you can live. That’s all you can stand. The flow of consciousness that accompanied the routine of everyday life ceases to be replaced by the realization that the life you thought you were living was a fantasy.
True life makes itself known through tragedy as it does through love. Those are the moments where the spell is broken and you are forced to pay attention — you have to, the feelings are too real.
To take a cue from the Buddhists, life is suffering. We all suffer tragedy. No one is immune. How we react to becomes the main focus of importance. How we react resides within our control. And when life shows you just how out of control you are, focusing on what you can control becomes all the more important.